That Time of Year
I can always tell when the year is winding down for a few reasons: the
change in weather, the wine festival and the question I begin to get
this time of year "what do you want for your birthday". Every year
it's all the same: switch out my clothes, a day of wine and friends
and a cake from G's Cake Shop!
I usually get the cake myself unless someone like my Mom or Stepmom
insist, because after 25 what does a grown up really have/need to ask
for? I go to dinner, share the cake, thank God for my friends and
family and call it another good year but this year that's not going to
work.
I'll be 37 this year and this has been a challenging year to say the
least. There have been a lot changes and surprises this year both
positive and shocking (will not say negative). Now I am still getting
my cake but I think, now I know it's time to move forward.
Ive felt stuck, like I'm watching life go by or just stop. Marriages,
divorces, births, deaths, promotions, job loss, new/first homes and
cars, lost homes and cars ....
While some of those things seem unpleasant they're a natural part of
lifes ups and downs and there are opportunities in unpleasant events.
I heard something recently that has helped change my perspective on
things "stop wishing that things were the way you want them to be,
life is exactly how it should be right now". I've been so focused on
what I feel I've lost I've been out of sync with what is. The good
news, I caught myself before I began to beat myself up, the challenge,
stay on track.
I was watching Oprah yesterday and an event on the show reminded
me of The Secret. Two audience members stood up and told her they
were Mariah Careys biggest fans and asked if she was going to be on
the show this season and they got more than the answer they wanted.
Oprah flew the two fans (and 2 of their friends) to NYC to see Mariah
perform in Central Park AND Mariah is giving them guest spots in her
new video.
Now whether you like Mariah or Oprah is irrelevant, the lesson is by
putting genuine unselfish intentions out you get far more blessings,
karma or whatever you want to label it back. I've known this for some
time, practiced it and have lived it but in the past year forgot it.
I don't want anyone to get the impression that I'm talking about
begging or dropping hints like kids do for Christmas. Noooo, I'm
saying listen to what people say, they will tell you what they need. I
decided that from now on if I buy clothes for myself I have to give
some away, buy some for someone else or both. I just got the
opportunity to practice this and it didn't hurt at all.
So as I move into my 37th year I am determined to stop fighting
(myself and anything else) my way through lifes storms, instead I'll
navigate through. Fighting uses far more energy, time and there's no
gurantee you'll win. But when you take the time to get quiet and think
it's always easier to navigate your way through. Life is just like the
weather, it may rain longer than we'd like but it does end, and the
sun returns.
So I'm ready for my cake but more importantly I'm ready to navigate.
A Navigator wouldn't be a bad birthday present this year, hint hint.
Sent from my iPod
change in weather, the wine festival and the question I begin to get
this time of year "what do you want for your birthday". Every year
it's all the same: switch out my clothes, a day of wine and friends
and a cake from G's Cake Shop!
I usually get the cake myself unless someone like my Mom or Stepmom
insist, because after 25 what does a grown up really have/need to ask
for? I go to dinner, share the cake, thank God for my friends and
family and call it another good year but this year that's not going to
work.
I'll be 37 this year and this has been a challenging year to say the
least. There have been a lot changes and surprises this year both
positive and shocking (will not say negative). Now I am still getting
my cake but I think, now I know it's time to move forward.
Ive felt stuck, like I'm watching life go by or just stop. Marriages,
divorces, births, deaths, promotions, job loss, new/first homes and
cars, lost homes and cars ....
While some of those things seem unpleasant they're a natural part of
lifes ups and downs and there are opportunities in unpleasant events.
I heard something recently that has helped change my perspective on
things "stop wishing that things were the way you want them to be,
life is exactly how it should be right now". I've been so focused on
what I feel I've lost I've been out of sync with what is. The good
news, I caught myself before I began to beat myself up, the challenge,
stay on track.
I was watching Oprah yesterday and an event on the show reminded
me of The Secret. Two audience members stood up and told her they
were Mariah Careys biggest fans and asked if she was going to be on
the show this season and they got more than the answer they wanted.
Oprah flew the two fans (and 2 of their friends) to NYC to see Mariah
perform in Central Park AND Mariah is giving them guest spots in her
new video.
Now whether you like Mariah or Oprah is irrelevant, the lesson is by
putting genuine unselfish intentions out you get far more blessings,
karma or whatever you want to label it back. I've known this for some
time, practiced it and have lived it but in the past year forgot it.
I don't want anyone to get the impression that I'm talking about
begging or dropping hints like kids do for Christmas. Noooo, I'm
saying listen to what people say, they will tell you what they need. I
decided that from now on if I buy clothes for myself I have to give
some away, buy some for someone else or both. I just got the
opportunity to practice this and it didn't hurt at all.
So as I move into my 37th year I am determined to stop fighting
(myself and anything else) my way through lifes storms, instead I'll
navigate through. Fighting uses far more energy, time and there's no
gurantee you'll win. But when you take the time to get quiet and think
it's always easier to navigate your way through. Life is just like the
weather, it may rain longer than we'd like but it does end, and the
sun returns.
So I'm ready for my cake but more importantly I'm ready to navigate.
A Navigator wouldn't be a bad birthday present this year, hint hint.
Sent from my iPod
mmmm....cake
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