I am sitting in my spot (Starbucks in Suffolk, Va on Main Street, THE BEST STARBUCKS IN THE WORLD) and doing my homework.  Part of the assignment is self assessment, no problem, I am VERY good and comfortable assessing myself.  This is probably the easiest assignment I've EVER had.  So, after reading the section below does anyone think they can pick out which one applies to me?  Take your time, choose carefully, it may be hard.


S E L F - A S E S S M E N T

Romantic Relationships

Which of the following best describes your current feelings, particularly as they might
apply to present or potential romantic love relationships?

1. Secure—I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable
depending on them. I don’t often worry about being abandoned or about
someone getting too close to me.

2. Avoidant—I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult
to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I
am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often love partners want me to
be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.

3. Anxious—I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often
worry that my partner doesn’t really love me or won’t want to stay with me. I
want to get very close to my partner and this sometimes scares people away.